https://youtu.be/U9-jd-0wHHI?si=dwwX0VGHcPr1ldlB

Key Learning Points:

1. Difference between Men & Women
   1. Women tend to bring up problem and work on improving relationships. This make men feel pressured, because they feel like their hard work is under appreciated. Women need to let men feel less pressure.
   2. Men need to consider hormonal change during menstrual cycle can hugely impact women's mood (women are more irritable). Also men need to make women feel loved by asking questions about their feeling/emotion. Men should focus on empathize, not providing a solution for women.
2. 4 Predictive Factors of Bad/Terminated Relationship
   1. Criticize: 對人不對事
   2. Defense: 反駁，互相指責/互揭傷疤
   3. Mocking：嘲諷(最大殺傷力）
   4. Abadonment: 拒絕溝通
3. 5 Steps process of communicating fight event
   1. Avoid escalating fight by mirroring emotion
   2. Set alone time to self soothe
   3. Talk about triggering event,talk about their point of view
   4. The other partner summarize what she/he heard about
   5. invite partner to talk what emotion is triggered, story related to the triggered emotion
   6. Talk about what could be done differently (both partner) to avoid same fight
4. Intimacy Ritual
   1. Partner嘗試R水吹時要正面回應
   2. Pre plan:
      1. How to spend time together
         1. 去邊，做咩
      2. What to talk about
         1. E.g. things you like, things you hate about the year
5. Relationship Review (every few week)

   1. Set Questionnaire (co-design~10)

      1. What make you feel bad
      2. What triggers to review
      3. From How to not die alone

   2. Meetings (create your own context)

      1. Appreciation things your partner have done for you
      2. Triggers that needed to be processed
      3. One way partner can do for each other to feel more loved

      8 dates: conversation to go through each date, with sample of how the date would look like